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The Non Transparency Of NGOs

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In recent weeks we’ve heard of the sexual misconduct of aid workers in various countries working under the Oxfam banner. These workers were accused of soliciting vulnerable populations for sex in exchange for humanitarian supplies. Apparently this is what has been happening for quite some time now. What’s more appalling is that some of the executives at Oxfam knew this was happening and did nothing about it.  But why, do you ask? DONATIONS. The executives of Oxfam knew that if their extremely wealthy donors were to find out about what was going on, they would pull the funding immediately. That means that probably almost everyone would be out of a job and the NGO would be done. But honestly, I don’t how any organization that can recover from this. Maybe some donors will side with Oxfam and their elitism and make excuses as to why nothing was done but they’re doing such good work! This is unfortunately a blind spot that big donors choose to see from. But even if they did believe it, they would separate the people from the top from the people on the ground and blame a poorly vetting process that in entirely out of the control of higher ups. There are a variety of explanations that can be used to make people believe that Oxfam is innocent.

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Oxfam claims to do many things for impoverished countries that have a population that has been affected by horrible tragedies. One of them is empowering women. It’s kind of ironic. Are they empowered first then abused later? Whatever the case may be they are obviously not living up to their mission by no stretch of the imagination. This is the problem with huge international NGOs, because they are so wealthy and they have a high paid staff, they tend to operate more like a corporation than a humanitarian organization. People tend to think that the bigger the NGO or non profit and the more countries they’re in, the more good work is done. That’s not always the case and I know Oxfam is not the only NGO with this scandal. The beacon of humanitarian issues residing in New York, the United Nations. They have scandal after scandal of UN Peacekeepers raping women and children in various countries where the UN works. They are well aware of this and say they are looking into it but the scandals continue. This is not a new phenomena, this is lack of transparency.

Donors, funders and grantors for these big NGOs must request full transparency from their daily operations and activities. Victims who speak out should not be silenced, they should get justice. It’s understandable that you can’t know what everyone is doing at all times but when you know something bad is happening you must act. If you are complacent you will most definitely be accused of enforcing it. Some people tend to romanticize big international NGOs into the saviour for every man, woman and child. And sometimes it’s because of this that they give blindly without asking questions and just assume that they’re money is going to help children in Africa or women suffering abuse, etc. We should no longer allow these big powerful entities to dictate what human rights looks like with impunity and non disclosure. Lack of transparency means abuses continue without justice, vulnerable populations are under the control of a poorly vetted system of aid workers and victims have no voice.  So before you give to an Oxfam or any other huge NGO, ask questions, do research, request full transparency so you can make and informed decision. Make sure they are who they say they are.

 

BeaSister2aSister is 501(3) non profit that helps survivors of Human Trafficking, Domestic Violence, Abuse and Exploitation become self sustainable and free from programs and agencies that keep in interdependence.

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Samantha Inesta

Founder/Executive Director

BeaSister2aSister

 

The Price Little Girls Pay

In the wake of the Larry Nassar trial and convictions, there are a lot of people wondering “Why was this not stopped from the beginning?”. That is a valid question that has a complicated answer. Children are impressionable and easily manipulated and more than that-trusting. What Larry Nassar did was abuse their innocence, naivety, and their desire to be Olympic champions someday. Nassar’s reputation as a world renowned sports physician succeeds all the abuse because adults, not children, respected him. Their pleas for help were dismissed as nothing more than made up fantasies. So these people who were protecting Nassar’s reputation were also protecting their own and the University of Michigan. As infuriating as this is, we see it time and time again with big organizations, but what about parents?

This is also nothing new. Children are taught to respect authority and do what they’re told and if they speak bad about that person then it must be something they did. This culture makes it very hard especially for little girls to have a voice when they know that clearly something bad is happening to them. If we look at the sexual abuse of the Catholic Church that has touched both boys and girls-but probably more boys, speaking out is not popular. There is so much culturally ingrained ties to the church that the men of God are worshiped above all things. Parents whose children were affected by this chose to make it disappear for fear of being “outed” by their parish for damaging the reputation of the priest. They may even believe that God himself will condemn them. The children who have been abused grow up with mental and emotional disorders and sometimes turn into the abuser themselves. The slap in the face they received from the Catholic Church does nothing but reaffirm the mafia-like stronghold it has on it’s congregation.

This is not only about abuse, rape or molestation, this about a man who made sure he was the best at what he did so that he could build an infallible reputation. Who would question that? This would be his shield against any and all accusations. Larry Nassar was so skilled at making people believe that he operated with the utmost professionalism that he was able to abuse these girls with their parents steps away. Because of the technique being used Nassar was able to convince school officials and parents that the examinations he was giving the girls were normal and not crossing the line. This suppressed their trauma even more when the girls tried to articulate what was happening. Quiet humiliation and silencing  forced the girls to keep it locked up inside never to speak of it again, until January 2018. Those scared and traumatized little girls grew up. They are no longer scared and traumatized but ready to fight no matter if people believed them or not. Not only were they believed but the agonizing wait for closure was finally granted to them in the form of basically a life sentence for Larry Nassar. They finally found someone who REALLY listened. Not only did Judge Aquilina listen but she believed, which is what they wanted all along.

Men in positions of authority, elitism and professional privilege are believed to do no evil. It is common for people to think that a man who is well to do, respected and highly educated would never harm a child, or a woman and if he’s accused it’s because there must be a payoff involved. This toxic cultural paradigm must shift. Entitlement is no excuse for abuse, rape and exploitation. Young survivors of sex trafficking face the same stigmas but more often then not the men who bought them go free while they are left with a criminal record and no hope for a future. The real answer to all of this? Listen to the children.

 

 

BeaSister2aSister is a anti-trafficking non profit that helps survivors be self sustainable. We give survivors of trafficking, domestic violence, abuse and exploitation a way out of a dependent life an into an independent life. Will you help us to support them?

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Samantha Inesta

Founder/Executive Director

BeaSister2aSister

The Human Cost Of a Bad Immigration Reform & The Fate Of Those Caught in Slavery

In the midst of Democrats and Republicans trying to get a “Deal” made before the next government shutdown, immigrants are worried, scared and stressed. Life is not what it used to be and many are afraid to walk the streets for fear of deportation. But what about those that were forced into this country for sex and labor? They too did not choose to be in that situation but somehow they got there. Now, I know that these are different arguments but the outcome is the same. Survivors of trafficking will get swept up in mass deportations and get treated like criminals. It doesn’t matter that they are here getting services, working with an immigration lawyer and are on the path to getting a T visa or a green card. They are seen as illegal, period.

Just like DREAMers and anyone else that is in need of starting over to make a better life, survivors of human trafficking deserve that chance too. I doubt that when Democrats and Republicans restart talks on immigration, human trafficking will not be on the table. Most likely it will be looked at as a violent crime with all those involved facing some sort of prosecution and deportation without thought to the victims and their circumstances. With the recent ant-immigrant rhetoric spoken in the January 30, 2018 State of the Union address it’s not hard to see that President Trump and his followers are anti everything that isn’t White American. It’s very easy for humanitarian issues to fall through the cracks in favor of the “America First” policy.  The U.S. Advisory Council for Human trafficking should and must be included when talks of immigration and immigration reform take place because they are the experts and they have lived through it.

When you talk about gangs you also need to talk about human trafficking, whether they are outside crime organizations or local groups. Human trafficking is a lucrative business for all types of organized crime all over the world. The people they are selling are innocent victims, some trying to get work to support their family, others caught up in the sex trade through no fault of their own. This is a real concern. Survivors are just as fearful and stressed as all immigrants in this country are at this time. We need a clear, concise and fair immigration reform that helps, DREAMers, immigrants and survivors of human trafficking to help them on the road to citizenship if they choose to do so. They are just as hard working and entrepreneurial as anyone seeking to start over and create a new chapter of success in their lives. If they are given this opportunity they will not only have the chance to start over but to do it in a way where they can be self sustainable with no governmental help.

This is what our government should strive for, the self sustainability for all those that are here trying to have a future, not digging into their past to try and find a way to detain and deport them. Also, a twelve year pathway to citizenship is a bit excessive and time consuming. Forcing people to wait with uncertainty longer than they have to is just cruel. If they have already proven themselves they should not have to wait for a lengthy period to be granted citizenship. Torturing people because of childhood immigration or force, fraud and coercion is re-victimization and trauma induced. It will do nothing to help their mental state and put them in a place of desperation and total fear. This government has to do better, this not just about immigration, this is about human rights for all.

 

BeaSister2aSister helps survivors of human trafficking, domestic violence, abuse and exploitation on the path to self sustainability. Please consider being a monthly donor so that we can continue this much needed work. Your monthly donation of $20, $50 or $100 will help our survivors find independence and true freedom without have to rely on others. Every survivor that is self sustainable is a blow to the $150 billion business of human trafficking.

To give please visit http://www.beasister2asister.org click on give today and set up monthly donations or other amounts. BeaSister2aSister is grateful to you in helping us help survivors who are desperate to move forward and have future.

 

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Samantha Inesta

Founder/Executive Director

BeaSister2asister

 

This Is An Important Month For Survivors

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Now that the New Year is in full swing, partying is over, it’s time to get back to business. January is a very important month for people like myself and survivors because this is a time when organizations and NGOs rush out into social media and all outlets connected to the public to tell them that human trafficking is real and it happens in our country. Every year this time advocates are busy planning events, outreaches and campaigns all designed to educate the public on what has been termed the “scourge of society”. You will also see celebrities being well financially supported by wealthy organizations active in PSAs complete with hashtags, signs and a please support…….fill in the blank.  In 2015 President Barack Obama declared January Human Trafficking Awareness Month. He also created the U.S. Advisory Council on Human Trafficking which has done amazing work simply because everyone on the council is a survivor. And that’s the core message this time around, listen to survivors-with a hashtag.

Yes, we should definitely listen to survivors. They will give you the best education on human trafficking and tell you things you never could imagine. So why aren’t we? Why are most of the people speaking not survivors? The problem is survivors ARE speaking but they’re not being heard. Mostly because they are thought of as someone who is too broken be able to understand their situation or to articulate what they went through and therefore they need someone to speak for them. Another reason being is that hearing it from someone who is on their favorite show or a TV personality they love to watch makes it easier for them to hear it. But here’s what’s wrong with that. You’re not seeing the REAL person it happened to, your basically looking at an actor whose getting educated right along with you. There are no survivors there to back anything up which leaves a wide net of interpretation.

We should do all what we can to educate the public not only on what human trafficking looks like and how to prevent it but also what the reality of it is. All the information is being muddled by media, entertainment and Hollywood. Every event that is planned should be fully attended by the general public and survivors who are willing to speak out and make a difference. They should be the only ones speaking because they are the ones that experienced it. We should spend more time empowering survivors to be leaders, speakers and mentors instead of broken, messed up victims that are tethered to a life of dependency on advocates and service providers. Self sustainability should be the next step towards true survival. That means no dependency, full autonomy and control over every aspect of their lives. That is our message, not only do we listen to survivors we give them a platform to be heard and a solid place to stand on.

A survivor told me recently that if a non profit or NGO is going to use a survivor to advocate for and with their organization, that they should hire them and pay them a salary. I agree. If you’re going to pay a celebrity why wouldn’t you pay a survivor? There are dozens of survivors writing books about their experience in hopes to make some money because they need a job and some have children to feed. No one can expect them to work for free. We focus on their needs not our own. I understand the draw of a celebrity, I get it. It’s a great fundraising tactic but it doesn’t last, sooner or later you’ll have to come down to reality. Survivors don’t take well to being pushed aside for a famous person. Their lives are challenging enough they don’t need to be spoken about in the third person. If we’re going to listen to survivors when need to hear them and see them not a narration of who they are.

These woman and girls are brave, powerful and worthy of all that life has to offer them, so why aren’t we giving it to them? I always say we need to do better by them because they need to be better, they can and will be better as long a we REALLY #listentosurvivors.

 

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Sincerely,

Samantha Inesta-Founder/Executive Director

BeaSister2aSister

 

 

 

 

 

Survivors Are Advocating For Self Sustainability in Washington DC

On January 5, 2018 I was invited to Washington DC for the relaunching of the U.S. Advisory Council on Human Trafficking. This is a task force that was appointed by the Obama administration comprised of mostly survivors to advocate and set policies that will give survivors of sex and labor trafficking the freedoms and protections they rightly deserve. When I arrived at the Baker Institute-across from the White House, I entered a crowded room of government employees, advocates and survivors. I will admit I knew every survivor on the task force and they are fighting very hard to have their voices heard and to make a change on the national level. Before the re-appointments, the women on the panel were giving their final analysis on what still needs to be done not only on the national level but with NGOs and non profits.

As I was sitting there listening to the passionate advocacy, I heard the word sustainability.  It is a word that is being used by survivors and I support that 100%. This is the mission of BeaSister2aSister and the vision is to give survivors complete self sustainability. The idea of sustainability is not just something being said in the United States but in other countries around the globe. This is a crucial step for any survivor once they have steadied themselves and are ready to move on. This is the ONLY way to keep them from being re-victimized and re-trafficked. If they do not have a means to take care themselves or their children they are at risk for falling back into the hands of pimps and labor traffickers. It’s understood that not all survivors may be ready for that and we know this. Young women and men who have been victims of trafficking have most likely suffered severe PTSD and are having a hard time functioning. This is where we need more social workers and therapists that are highly trained in dealing with people who are experiencing high levels of PTSD. It has been said that female victims of trafficking and even domestic violence experience the same torture as a prisoner of war would. The same tactics that are used in the military are used on victims of trafficking and domestic violence.

The unfortunate reality it that when people hear you are a survivor right away they’ve already put you in a category.  If it’s a non profit or NGO you are expected to advocate for free and be at their beck and call. If you are trying to get a decent paying job it can be challenging as a survivor when you don’t have the right support and encouragement. If survivors are going to be used as advocates for NGOs, non profits and government agencies they need to be sustained financially. It’s not a good feeling for anyone to know that they may not be able to pay their bills, eat or have a place to live. These are basic rights that no one should be denied because of a past situation. It’s a human right.

I actually had someone question the self sustainability that BeaSister2aSister offers survivors. Not understanding the meaning of it which was interesting to me because how is it that a survivor that may or may not have a lot of education understand it but a woman who is a professor can’t. Maybe this person has never had to think about where her next meal was coming from or if she will be able to pay her bills and have a place to live. When you are dependent on another person or entity to provide you a “life”, it’s pretty difficult to learn how to survive without them. If you’ve never learned how to provide for yourself how do you think you would fare on your own? Sometimes people need to learn how to be independent because they’ve never had that freedom or it was taken away from them and they have to learn how to be independent again. To depend on themselves, earn their own money, buy their own food, pay bills and rent an apartment. Most of it is financial sustainability-the most important thing that everyone needs to feel secure in their life.

It’s really a very simple concept. Survivors are not decorations or ornaments to policies and legislation to make it look legit or serious. They cannot live on free advocacy or complimentary speaking engagements, they need something permanent that will sustain their lives. If they are not self sustainable, they will not be able to advocate or write policy or be on a government task force because they will be in a shelter or back on the streets. We need and can do better for them.

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Samantha Inesta

Founder/Executive Director

BeaSister2aSister

The Trauma of Domestic Violence and Mass Shooting Survivors

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Domestic violence is an all to familiar problem in the United States. It has been around probably as long as human trafficking has and still, just like human trafficking, it exists and is thriving. How does a person become an abuser or a victim of one? There is a connection with the way a child is treated by the parents which will shape the way he/she will develop as an adult. If a son is constantly belittled by his mother and publicly embarrassed, he will more than likely grow up with a hatred for women. If a daughter is told she is worthless, ugly and not worth loving, she will believe and in turn end up with someone who will physically abuse her. Then there is the little boy who loves to torture animals for fun, will most likely be a serial killer when he gets older unless it is stopped. At home where it began.  There are four factors that play into the abuse of a child physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse and neglect. All of these stop a child from becoming a well developed person capable of loving and receiving love. When they become an adult they pretty much hate the world.

As adults they may find it easy to get someone to love them and be in a relationship or enter into marriage. The person who has agreed to this union has now become the victim without even realizing it. This is particularly scary because their terror is behind closed doors where no one sees. These women are terrified. Some do escape, but with multiple wounds and massive amounts of PTSD that is tantamount to foreign prisoners of war. The abuser often times gets little if any jail time and his thirst for violence isn’t satisfied. He feels that society is against him and he needs to do something about that. Instead of one victim, he now has hundreds and access to firearms that will carry out his blood fantasy. There is no way to gage who will be a domestic violence abuser and who won’t. All we can do is handle it case by case.

Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York has released a proposal for 2018 to take guns out of the hands of domestic violence abusers. This proposal was built on the existing legislation put out by Assembly Amy Paulin and Senator Diane Savino as well as other legislative members. This proposal requires that men who are served with orders of protection should relinquish any firearms in their possession. But just like with any legislation there are holes. The suspension of firearms is at the judge’s discretion who is presiding over the case and that could cause severe damage to any domestic violence victim. Being able to locate these domestic abusers with no case against them is also a slippery situation. The NYPD needs to be trained thoroughly on how to handle these cases. So many times law enforcement treats it like it nothing or believes the abuser and criminalizes the woman. Not much different than human trafficking and we STILL need more NYPD to be trained on that. While I applaud Governor Cuomo and the legislative body for this proposal, I hope it doesn’t get shelved with no real enforcement. If you believe in the Women’s Equality Agenda then you should look at every avenue possible that will make this law iron clad.

As a society we are horrified by the mass shootings of Las Vegas and the church in Texas. So many innocent lives were lost and children died. But so should we be horrified when we know there is a woman on our street in our neighborhood being beaten on a daily basis. It starts with one and it starts at home.

 

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Samantha Inesta

Founder/Executive Director

BeaSister2aSister

http://www.beasister2asister.org

 

Will Net Neutrality Make It harder For Survivors To Access Services From Non Profits?

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Net Neutrality. Everyone is talking about it but not everyone knows exactly what it means. Here’s a Net Neutrality 101 definition. According to one source at INVESTOPEDIA, it means this: The concept that all data on the internet should be treated equally by corporations, such as internet service providers, and governments, regardless of content, user, platform, application or device. Network neutrality requires all Internet service providers (ISPs) to provide the same level of data access and speed to all traffic, and that traffic to one service or website cannot be blocked or degraded. ISPs are also not to create special arrangements with services or websites, in which companies providing them are given improved network access or speed.

Now let’s look at the last line of that definition. ISPs are also not to create special arrangements with services or websites, in which companies providing them are given improved network access or speed. I think that is the most important and challenging part of the Net Neutrality issue. These “special arrangements” are what is making small businesses, first-time entrepreneurs and non profits worried. Because for them it means I’m a little fish in an ocean of sharks, how do I stop from being eaten or disappear? It is only the giant corporations that have the cash and power to keep themselves #1 in all of the search engines, and they know that. Corporations already hold most of the countries wealth and don’t mind taking more of it if they can. This is forcing the little guy to frantically find the right coding system so that people don’t forget who they are. And now that it has unanimously passed, they’re sweating it out and hoping for the best.
So how about the world of non profits? The places that run specifically on donations and public funding? These organizations, such as myself, rely heavily on internet exposure in order to gain the visibility needed for funding programs, services and day to day operations. From a perspective where you are helping people that need to access services now and can’t wait because of their situation it can be catastrophic. If it takes a while from them to reach you because your site isn’t loading fast enough or the page that has your contact info is freezing then they will be stuck as well. This is a frightening scenario for organizations that work with vulnerable populations, like youth, immigrants and the homeless population. Incidentally, all of them are vulnerable to trafficking and domestic violence.
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Of course the government will accept this knowing that big business will thrive and in turn boost the economy. They will perpetuate the lie that Net Neutrality will be good for everyone big and small and all will be created equal. That cannot be farther from the truth. If there is anything we’ve learned about Corporate America is that they are GREEDY, with everything. Unfortunately most non profits are the smallest of them all but still manage to achieve some success in their work. This is because they are able to obtain the visibility they need not only to donors but to those that are  also badly in need of their services.  Unfortunately that may not happen anymore.

In the online world of human trafficking publications like Backpage.com make most if not all of their profits by selling minors like you would sell a couch that’s in good condition. If the profit margin of Backpage.com continues to grow they may have more power to garner a bigger online presence than before. So if this happens and the non profits that help minors in these situations are slowed down, help will be slow to access as well. It will be harder for youth who are stepping out of a trafficking situation to find shelter because they just simply cannot afford to spend hours waiting for a website to download. I am also aware of street outreach that will literally hand young people food and a phone number to call but that isn’t always the safest option for the non profit or the young person. We must find more creative ways to get to them.

Net Neutrality is indeed a great challenge for us in the non profit world. BeaSister2aSister isn’t scared, we welcome a challenge and we will fight to turn it into a success.

If you would like to know more about the campaign to shut down Backpage.com and the repealing of section 230 of the Communications Decency Act, watch the documentary “I Am Jane Doe” written and directed by Mary Mazzio.  The battle is still raging.

 

Help BeaSister2aSister keep survivors self sustainable by being a monthly donor of $25, $50 or $100. All donations are tax deductible, simply go to http://www.beasister2asister.org give today and hit donate. If you would prefer to mail a check, you can send it to: BeaSister2aSister 147 Prince Street, 4th Floor Brooklyn, NY 11218. If you would like to reach us, send an email to info@beasister2asister.org.

 

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Samantha Inesta

Founder/Executive Director

BeaSister2aSister

 

2018 The Year of Sustainability

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We all know that being on your own is not easy, especially if you have children. But imagine for a second that your life was good. You had a decent home, you were well fed and taken care of and money wasn’t issue. Or maybe it was an issue and you were living in poverty. Maybe you came from a dysfunctional family that had a history of drugs or alcohol. What ever the situation there was one thing that you had control over. Your life. But then one day something or someone came into your life and took that control right from under you. They took away your capacity to think for yourself. They made you do things that gave you nightmares and controlled every fiber of your being. And they controlled the money.

That is just a snippet of what happens to a young woman when she is coerced into the sex trade and trafficked.

There are many ways that these young women are able to get out and find help. Law enforcement, a stranger who decided to help or getting the opportunity to just simply run away. The scenarios are endless, but some do get away and they are looking to permanently stay away. A lot of organizations offer the immediate resources to just get her off of the streets. The beds are few, the shelters are overcrowded but some how organizations manage to find A PLACE. Therapy, counseling and self care begin. These programs are good-until they end. So many women and girls are not given options after that, so they take matters in to their own hands and either go back into the streets or end up in another violent situtation whether it’s a family member, friend or ex-boyfriend.

What is sustainable about that? Nothing.

So BeaSister2aSister wants to fill in the huge blank, the gap that so many women and girls seem to be falling into. It’s simple, we offer one thing-self sustainability. That is the next piece that should come after immediate services. Of course not every survivor is ready to move on after six months or even one year. But when they’ve maxxed out of the current program, we will be there to pick it up and help them to get to where that want to be, independent and not relying on organizational support that leaves them with their hand out all the time practically begging for assistance. Organizations can only give so much before they’re left financially dry.

We advocate for survivors to be independent not interdependent, to have freedom of choice and make their own decisions. Self sustainability should be the next step to taking back control over a life that was controlled. BeaSister2aSister believes that EVERY survivor has the capacity to live independently without handouts and programs that will fail them. Being on your own because your just starting your life vs being on your own because of a circumstance out of your control is very different and much more difficult. We want to be the relief, the fresh air, the cup of cold water when the heat is too much.

This year is just about over and 2018 is on the other side of the door knocking. Soon New Years Eve resolutions will be made, some broken, some will actually be met. I want to ask you to make an early New Years Eve resolution and give to survivor self sustainability, give to independence and freedom. Let’s all move into 2018 together as sisters as a family who supports one another. Please consider a monthly gift of $25, $50 or $100. Your gift is tax deductible and it will make a great Christmas gift for a young woman.

To give please vist: http://www.beasister2asister.org click on give today and donate.

BeaSister2aSister wishes you and your family a wonderful holiday filled with love and joy.

Happy Holidays!

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Samantha Inesta

Founder/Executive Director

BeaSister2aSister

And The Battle Rages On

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The year 2017 is coming to an end with so much insidiousness, debauchary and international illegalities. One gets whiplash just trying to keep up. As the old Bob Dillion song  goes “Times, they are a’changin”, and they have really changed alright. Women from everywhere have stepped out of the confinement that men put them in and are ready to change the times even further. The power struggle of the Trump administration and women both with their hands gripped on the time clock, one pushing it backwards and the other straining to push it forward. This battle has always existed, but now women are smarter, more clever and modern in the uses of technology and social media.  When a man steps out of his home his day is most likely filled with meetings, senseless on the job banter, making it look like they’re doing something then maybe a drink with the guys after work. When a woman steps out, she’s stepping out into a warzone and thus must be prepared to fight. Everyday.

A lot of women lately have traded in their business suits, uniforms or everyday clothing for fatigues. Figuratively speaking. It seems like the most simplest of tasks cannot be accomplished without lewd remarks, unwanted advances, or just plain staring. And that’s just on the job. Let’s talk about the streets, shall we? During the ’90’s walking down around Wall Street, even if you didn’t work there but was just passing through, you could not get by without a barrage of the most disgusting, lascivious, dehumanizing comments from men in 3-piece suits. And married-with children. This was true of almost all Downtown Manhattan that was connected to Wall Street. After 9/11, things came to a stand still and basically shut down the downtown area. Now it’s mostly a haven for tourists and people who want to shop in the trendy establishments that replaced the Mom and Pop businesses. But don’t worry, Wall street is still in tact!

The foul mouthed unkempt construction worker who thinks he can say and do anything he wants because apparently he is the keeper of the concrete you walk on. Even if it means blocking your walkway just so he can say something pornorgraphic right to you face so he can see your expression. Also married with children-see the theme happening? Ladies, why do you marry these men? You deserve so much better! You do.

But I will say this. Ever since women have been coming forward, whether it’s the sexual harrassment in Hollywood or the everyday onslaught that women face, there is something different in the air. There is, from what I have witnessed, men just keeping their mouth’s shut. Letting a woman walk by them without so much as a glance. Giving her the freedom to exist and go about her day and letting her keep that good mood she’s in instead of trying to destroy her spirit. I’m not sure if it’s actual respect or fear of being called out publicly. Whatever it is, we’ll take it for now.

We seem to be making headway in the battle but we still have a long way before we win the war. Until then the camouflage remains as we battle for our freedom in this lovely “Democratic” society of ours. The only thing to say now is, let’s go ladies back to the front!

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Samantha Inesta

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Lately we have been inundated with images of sexual harrassment & assault from powerful men in Hollywood such as Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey and a slew of others. I’m sure the list is still getting bigger by the day. But now we are hearing stories a little more close to home-Alabama to be exact. Roy Moore, republican candidate for the US Senate has been accused of sexual harrasment, assault and molestation by several women when he was in his 30s and these women were very young teens. The myraid of ultra-conservative white women supporting him even though there are unending testimonies that he did it is astonishing.

Once again the mixture of religion, female purity values and straight brainwashing has turned the most conservative of women against one another. This is a good thing for the men who have created this propaganda because it always gives them the upper hand agaist their accuser. Just like Roy Moore said, “They’ll never believe you.” And so far he’s kind of right.  As more women come forward with gruesome details and traumatic dispositions, Moore’s support grows larger. Somehow when it is said that a man worships God then he must be a good man, faultless without blemish. Newsflash, NO ONE in the Bible is faultless and without blemish. But man likes to say these things to cover up the monster that is hiding in the shadows.

This is the classic divide and conquer tactic. If you get them to believe what your saying, use the Bible to uphold your lies-but then make sure no one is actually READING the Bible-twist a few scriptures and play the victim, viola! She’s the whore of Babylon and your Jesus Christ. Fortunately, there are those that do read it and see the disconnect with 20/20 vision. What kind of christian values would make a person say they would rather have a child molestor in the Senate than a Democrat? Is that the Gospel according to Bobby Jo?  There’s nothing that supports that theology.

President Trump, who has also been accused of basically the same thing, has voiced his unending support for Roy Moore. There are also white women that support Trump, they must reading the same Gospel. These women want so much to see a man with good values, loves his country, God and doing right for his own that they have a blind spot to everything that is wrong and potentially dangerous with him. They are suffering from White Evangelical PTSD.  It is making them so unstable that they are willing to victim shame and blame women-who are just like them by the way- in order to keep that image alive. Do they think it can never happen to them? Are they in denial? Just like the wife that pretends her husband is not having an affair, these women are pretending Roy Moore is their savior, it just feels better.

If these white women truly believe in God and his justice then they should listen to Him and not Roy Moore.